It can be scary to come to therapy for the first time. Many people are unsure of what to expect and even how the process of therapy works. In this quick video, I’ll give you some basics of what to expect in therapy for the first time.
To the Wife of the Neurosurgeon at Primary Children’s Hospital
Today makes the five-year anniversary of this tragic experience in our family. Over the last five years, I have thought often about this woman and this letter I wrote at the time. I still feel deeply grateful.
To the Wife of the Neurosurgeon at Primary Children’s Hospital,
I have spent the last several days thinking of you almost constantly. I have wondered what you were doing Wednesday night when you got the call that your husband was coming home late again. I have wondered what you were planning for dinner and if you dished him up a plate to warm up when he got home. I have wondered if he missed one of the kids blocking three goals during soccer practice while all the other dads were there cheering for their players. I have wondered if your heart hurt when you tucked the kids into bed at night, and they asked you to send dad in when he got home to give them a kiss.
I have thought of the last several years of your life and wondered just how many plates you have prepared to be reheated and how many bedtimes you’ve done alone. How many times have you consciously smiled so your reply sounded supportive and understanding? How many times have you selfishly wished that people would just stop getting hurt – partially for themselves, but also so that you could have your husband home with the family more?Continue Reading
How to Talk to Your Child After You Catch Them Looking at Porn
Question: I recently checked the Internet browser history on my 12-year-old son’s computer, and he has been looking at pornography. How should I talk to him about this? I’m worried if he finds out I’ve been snooping, he won’t trust me anymore and start to keep other things secret.
What is My Role as a Parent Now that My Child is in College?
In a recent interview with NY Parenting, I talk about the changes in your role as a parent that occur when a child leaves home. This is a time that parents and kids are both unsure of how to navigate their relationship and roles.
“Often the move to college marks the most distinctive change for a child becoming an adult. There is usually a natural pulling away that happens in the teen years to prepare for this move into adulthood, but it still comes as a real shift,” says Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist Kim Blackham, and owner and director of Summit View Family Therapy in Winston-Salem, N.C.Continue Reading
Tips to Help You Find a Marriage Therapist
Every time we have moved, I have had to go through the process of finding new doctors, new music teachers, new babysitters, and new sports teams. Each one is a stressful and time-consuming process.
I don’t want to invest money and time into something I’m not going to be pleased with. The first thing I usually do is start asking for recommendations. I ask my neighbors and friends from church and look online for reviews. Eventually I find new doctors, music teachers, babysitters, and sports teams that I am pleased with, but it was certainly a process.Continue Reading
What is Emotionally Focused Therapy
When couples start exploring the option of therapy, they are often unaware of the different approaches therapists may use to help them. It’s important to understand that not all couples therapy is created equal. You are looking for deep and lasting change that will help you feel safe and secure in your relationship again. It is important to find an approach to therapy that will help you achieve that goal.
