It can be scary to come to therapy for the first time. Many people are unsure of what to expect and even how the process of therapy works. In this quick video, I’ll give you some basics of what to expect in therapy for the first time.
Today makes the five-year anniversary of this tragic experience in our family. Over the last five years, I have thought often about this woman and this letter I wrote at the time. I still feel deeply grateful. To the Wife of the Neurosurgeon at Primary Children’s Hospital, I have spent the last several days…
Question: I recently checked the Internet browser history on my 12-year-old son’s computer, and he has been looking at pornography. How should I talk to him about this? I’m worried if he finds out I’ve been snooping, he won’t trust me anymore and start to keep other things secret.
In a recent interview with NY Parenting, I talk about the changes in your role as a parent that occur when a child leaves home. This is a time that parents and kids are both unsure of how to navigate their relationship and roles. “Often the move to college marks the most distinctive change…
Every time we have moved, I have had to go through the process of finding new doctors, new music teachers, new babysitters, and new sports teams. Each one is a stressful and time-consuming process. I don’t want to invest money and time into something I’m not going to be pleased with. The first thing…
When couples start exploring the option of therapy, they are often unaware of the different approaches therapists may use to help them. It’s important to understand that not all couples therapy is created equal. You are looking for deep and lasting change that will help you feel safe and secure in your relationship again. It…
A few years ago, my hip was causing me a lot of pain. I couldn’t identify having specifically done something to initiate the pain, and I couldn’t seem to fix it on my own. I tried stretching, ice, rest, Motrin, but nothing seemed to help. I realized I had exhausted what I could try on…
Question: I was wondering if you had any suggestions on how to help each other express affection in the others love language when his is my lowest score and mine is his lowest score. For example, my highest is words of affirmation and lowest is physical touch. His highest is physical touch and lowest is…
It can be very difficult when a spouse is required to work nights. Something about nights adds to the loneliness and challenge of an already difficult situation. It’s easier to keep yourself busy during the day. There are often other people around such as friends, colleagues, and family members, as well as more scheduled activities…
Cindy could not find her four year old son. She looked all through the house and then the yard, but couldn’t find him anywhere. Desperate, she ran out into the street and looked up and down the road. There was her sweet son, sitting at the corner playing with his stick in the dirt. …
Question: I am in tears tonight as I type this. After 10 + years of marriage I am so discouraged. I have been with my husband since undergrad. I have been with him through everything in medical school, residency, and now our first year in a “real job.” He just continues to be more…
“Boundaries” are one of those terms that is thrown around a lot, yet many people are not really clear on what they are or how to set them. Many people think boundaries harm relationships or are only for people who need to regulate dysfunctional relationships.