Intensive Marriage Therapy
During my internship, I realized that residency is insatiable—there is never and will never be enough time to satisfy its demands. There are always patients to see, labs to check, notes to write, pages to return, articles to read, conferences to attend, presentations to prepare and research to work on. Like a gas, those demands quickly dispense into whatever space it is given. Continue Reading
With the strains of medical training on relationships, we naturally look for advocates – we want to find someone who will validate our side of the story. I experienced such a scenario dozens of times – a doctor speaking negatively about their spouse to co-workers or friends in an attempt to feel justified or be validated. And what often happened? Others join in, relating their own situations or complaints. Rather than smolder the tension between spouses, the fire is fueled. Continue Reading
Life as a resident is tough. Life as a resident spouse is uniquely but equally challenging. The inherent demands of residency leave little time or energy for anything else. Mistakes are made. Responsibilities are unfulfilled. Screw ups happen. Continue Reading
