Answer: I actually receive some form of this question several times a week! It is a very common concern from physician couples at all stages. While there are many elements that feed into improving intimacy in a relationship, I want to address three strategies you can begin to implement right now that can strengthen your physical…
Question: We are second year medical students. Our first year of medical school was rough and we have lots of layers to our situation. One of them is that we have two kids under 4-years-old and we live 2000 miles away from family. My main question is how to manage a relationship (romantic/connected/sexual and being vulnerable) with…
Finding a job–especially that first “real job” out of medical training–is stressful and exciting all at the same time. You’ve both sacrificed for so many years and are anxious to have the hard times come to an end. For many physician couples, the task of finding that golden goose “package deal” is filled with anxiety. It is…
Every week I receive several emails asking if I provide online therapy. There are many reasons why online therapy is a good idea. Online therapy allows people who live in small communities to reach specialists who may not live near them. Online therapy allows people the opportunity to work with therapists who specialize in a specific…
Couples are often unaware of how incredibly attuned we are to each other’s non-verbal cues–and of how powerfully those cues impact our sense of security in our relationships. I saw this scenario play out recently with a couple in my office. Tim was trying to explain how he felt like a huge disappointment to Pam. “It’s just,”…
It’s that time of year. Everyone is making resolutions, thinking carefully about how they want the next 365 days to be different from years past. As I have thought about my own resolutions this year, I have found myself approaching them much differently than I have before. In his bestselling book Good to Great, Jim Collins tells…
Coreen Roebuck* had just moved for her husband’s residency when she woke up realizing she was going to lose their baby. At 13 weeks pregnant, she knew there was no other reason for her cramping and bleeding. “I was so scared,” she told me at our first session. *Disclaimer: As with all stories I…
It can be really hard to find the perfect gift for the doctor you love. Last year I posted a gift guide that was chalk full of ideas. If you haven’t seen that one, take a look after you scroll through this list. There’s something for every budget – and a special discount code…
Holidays can be an especially hard time for couples, because each holiday inherently comes with its own expectations. One of the challenges everyone faces in their relationships is how to deal with the discrepancy between expectation and reality. When you expect something to go one way (having a quiet holiday dinner at home with your family)and the…
One of the most prevalent fears in relationships is the fear of disconnection, where individuals are deeply afraid of not feeling valued, important, or capable of meeting expectations. This fear can significantly impact how we perceive ourselves and our relationships. These overwhelming fears of disconnection and inadequacy are not limited to intense arguments alone. These…
It’s finally starting to feel like fall in Florida–well, kind of anyway. It was while I was enjoying the crisper air and smell of newly-fallen leaves that I relearned a lesson I have been learning for at least the last two decades. My six year old son asked me to go outside with him while…
I spent yesterday evening in the emergency room with my four-year-old son. Four kids, and I have never had to make an ER visit before. I realized that one of the reasons we have never been to the ED is because I have had access to medical opinions and knowledge at home. Whenever something about…