Take it in bite sized pieces and expect for things to be hard. Most of my husband’s rotations would last for two months. Some rotations were brutal, others were more manageable. Surviving residency meant that I had to break it down and not see the whole seven years at once. During those more brutal…
Choose to not be Resentful. Be Flexible and Understanding Instead Aaron learned to not tell me when he thought he would be home, but instead, to tell me what he had left to do and about how long it would take him to get it done. I would then tack an extra hour and a…
Live life now Studies have shown that those in the medical field who live life with the “When this is over, then we will….” mentality are unhappy in their relationships and in their job satisfaction. Medical training is a very long process. My husband will have been in school or training for 17 years since…
Ignore the Calendar and Set Your Own Holidays People get sick on holidays, weekends, birthdays, Tuesdays – ok, every day. Admittedly, when Aaron was on trauma and taking care of victims of preventable accidents there were times I felt like the Disney superhero Mr. Incredible (remember, I have young kids) during the opening scene when…
Support and Love Each Other. Talk about Your Needs Surviving residency meant that we had to be super-efficient with the time that Aaron was around. There was no time for me to expect him to guess what I needed and for him to try and get it right. Nor was there time for me to…
Dream About and Envision the Future Together This isn’t putting off life until training is over, but rather seeing a future where the two of you are together and in love. Frequently discuss plans and dreams together. Where do we want to be in ten years? Where should we vacation to celebrate when all this…
Maybe it was at a bridal shower or your wedding reception, or maybe it was written within a congratulation card from an old neighbor or during a heart to heart conversation with your grandmother before the big day, but I’m guessing that somewhere along the line, you were told that the key to a successful…
In my recent interview with ALLPARENTING, I talked about ways that you can make a living doing what you love while also balancing your family. “Kim Blackham, a licensed marriage and family therapist, advises moms to brainstorm what it is that they love to do and then see how other people are making money doing…
In 2009, Gary Chapman coined the phrase, “Love Languages” with the publication of his book, “The Five Love Languages.” A love language is a way someone hears and interprets love. Just like a verbal language in which someone understands another’s intentions, meaning, and message. If I were to speak to my partner in Japanese, he…
Were you aware of these common mistakes you might be making with your children? Surprisingly, many parents do these very things and don’t realize they may be emotionally hurting their kids. In my recent interview with SheKnows Parenting, I explained some common traps that parents fall into that may be sending kids the wrong…
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Have you read Dr. Sue Johnson’s books Love Sense and Hold Me Tight, but are still looking for a clear and simple understanding of what emotionally focused therapy is about? Then this book is for you! Drs. Brent Bradley and Jim Furrow do an excellent job describing what connection and security in relationships looks…