“If you are in a place where communication has broken down and the stalemate has formed, don’t give up! Get to Bethlehem to see Kim! Come open minded and prepare to see your spouse is a new way.”
“I see my partner and my marriage in a different, more powerful light. This was our last chance to continue our marriage. I now have the confidence to know that our marriage is not over and can thrive.”
“I was nervous about coming and it honestly was the best decision we could have made.”
“I/We were really skeptical that a few hours could fix the things that were broken. I could not believe how much even the first day resulted in some amazing outcomes. Once we let go and let Kim guide us–truly–the results were beautiful. What an absolutely incredible (life-saving) experience this has been. Thank you Kim!”
“Kim helped us to truly see each other again in a way we were unable to do on our own. I feel very hopeful now that our marriage will make it. Thank you, Kim!”
“I was able to get a better understanding of how my wife was looking at our situation. Understanding those things helped me see her and realize I can changes some things I have been doing.”
“Kim knows that she is doing. I am very impressed with her.”
“Kim is truly great at breaking down the issues then showing a new way to look at things. I’m grateful and only wish we had come sooner.”
“Kim was able to help us untangle almost 30 years of complex problems in two days. I didn’t think that was possible. We are so grateful. Thank you!!”
“This intensive helped us become a couple again and connect on an emotional level. We saw our relationship from a different perspective and realized we both wanted to achieve the same goals.”
“Kim was magical in her ability to get through to both of us. This experience was exactly what we needed to reconnect.”
“Kim is an extraordinarily perceptive, calm, and capable professional. She creates a safe, non-judgemental space and has enabled us to heal the deep rifts in our relationship and move forward with a closeness and joy we have never known.”
“Kim’s constant focus on the marriage is ultimately what made her program work for us. It’s not who was right or wrong. It’s how does the marriage come back together.”
“After nearly a year of weekly therapy we found ourselves worse off. I am convinced all couples need this. This is the only way we could have saved our marriage, and it is now stronger than ever.”
“This has been the most enlightening experience of my life. We went from a marriage in crisis to understanding how we got to this place, and understanding our roles in conflict and how this had led us to destroy our own relationship. During the intensive, we actively rebuilt our communication with each other and learned to communicate all that we both wanted was each other.”
“I thought that no one could help my husband see my pain and my struggles as important things to me, even if they are small. Kim helped him to see.”
“I feel closer to my husband than I have ever felt in 25 years of marriage. I have hope we will not just grow old together, but that we will be happy and in love.”
“I have made deeper connections than I thought possible with my spouse. It has changed our lives in a way that has given us the power to make it through anything.”
“For the first time since our crisis hit, I have hope our marriage may survive.”
“I was honestly afraid of losing our marriage of 25 years. Seeing Kim was a last desperate grasp at saving it. After the three days of intensive therapy, I walked out with confident that we are going to make our marriage work.”
“Kim was able to help us identify and work through some very deep and difficult issues in our marriage. She helped us find hope and possibility in growing our relationship to be better than ever.”
“Kim is a great therapist who has incredible knowledge, empathy, and passion. She helped us see our relationship in a new way and provided a foundation for moving forward.”
“I felt there was no hope for our marriage and I didn’t want to go another 25 years being alone. Kim brought back the light and the happiness of being together. I look forward to being the silly old couple.”
“I found it most helpful to understand how the stories I had been telling myself about me and my partner and our marriage were not always true and that at times those stories were keeping us apart from one another.”
“Kim works in a gentle way where I felt safe opening up to my her and my partner. The three-days were the right amount to time to begin the process of starting a new and connecting relationship with my partner.”
“This couples therapy has made me feel happier and safer than I have ever felt – not only with my relationship, but also with myself. I strongly encourage all couples to attend.”
“The most helpful part was how Kim took all of our problems and helped us see the core problem. She made us feel so much closer and stronger. We also have the tools to help in the future.”
“My wife and I felt so far apart and helpless. We didn’t even know what was wrong. We wanted to get back to where we were but were completely lost. Kim guided us through our issues and we are stronger and closer than we ever were.”
“We were able to see and hear each other for maybe the first time in our marriage. I gained a deeper love and respect for my wife.”
“Kim is great at making sure both spouses are heard and hear each other. She is very fair and also good at sorting out the little things that might be left unsaid.”
“This intensive is life changing and brought hope to a hopeless situation. Understanding the real reasons behind my actions and my spouse’s actions and the cycle we get into is paramount to reconnecting and creating a safe and loving home.”
“Kim’s demeanor was calming and made it a safe place to share painful things. She was so astute in picking up on important cues/responses/blocks and helping/guiding us through those points to a better place.”
“Kim did an excellent job of bringing EFT alive and helping frame it to fit our particular situation in an extremely beneficial way. The atmosphere allowed us to stay secure and safe while opening up to each other. There was excellent guidance on how to work through our conflict.”
“I had been hopeful about this intensive, but the results were so amazing that the connection that was fostered far exceeded my wildest dreams.”
“Please take the initiative to stop and seek out what Kim has to offer. She is understanding and gives the tools and insights to move forward in a loving, respectful marriage.”
“Kim is a great EFT therapist and truly was able to help me/us move past our disconnection. Instead of turning away from my wife for comfort and support, I am hopeful I will now turn towards her for support.”
“Dr. Blackham is a very thoughtful and considerate professional who truly helps you work together through your toughest issues that seemed unsolvable before.”
“This intensive was one of the best things we have done for our marriage. We were in the midst of a divorce and feeling hopeless on how to make things better. Kim was able to quickly get to the root of our problems and help us to change our negative patterns. I’m so glad we came. It has been truly life changing.”
“This was an eye opening experience. I finally realized I was doing the exact opposite of what I should do in order to love and support my wife and the opposite of what was going to get my needs met.”
“This is what every marriage needs. If you really want to break through, this is how you need to do it.”
“Kim is amazing. Her knowledge base, skill set, professionalism and delivery were a perfect fit for us. I will highly recommend her to anyone who asks.”
“I think having time together away from normal life helped us focus and relax and have a lot of time to make progress.”
“I came in afraid that I wouldn’t be able to verbalize how our marriage had been in the past since we had pretty much separated for 3 1/2 months. Kim was able to get to the heart of our issues without me having to give specific details of previous arguments. She helped talk us through our struggle and really got it.”
“We always thought we knew what was wrong and why we couldn’t make it work. We tried fixing it on our own. Through this intensive, we realized the root cause of everything that is happening which has empowered us and taught us how to fix things.”
“My wife and I didn’t fight. We didn’t argue. We simply didn’t communicate appropriately and allowed our marriage to devolve into a relationship that was cold and often emotionless. Kim was able to address our communication shortfalls, and most importantly show us what we are experience 1) was normal, 2) was seen and successful treated by Kim previously, and 3) could be fixed! After going through this program, I feel more in-tune and closer to my wife than I did on our wedding day.”
“I went into the intensive really doubtful that Kim could help us after three previous unsuccessful couples’ therapists and 25 years of dysfunction. I can only say thank you for giving us a sense of hope and possibility and the tools to reach towards each other when we are hurting. It feels like a gift and a miracle to have done this in three days.”
“There is no doubt the intensive format is valuable and effective. Don’t be afraid to get it all out. Kim is helpful at helping articulate the feelings behind the thoughts.”
“Recognizing my own feelings and shortcomings in my approach to my wife was extremely helpful. I would have never been able to fix my relationship without what I learned here with Kim. This is awesome!”
“I had no idea this intensive would be what it was. For the first time in I don’t know how long, I have hope for our future.”
“I was worried that such a compressed time schedule would not allow up to process through issues in a meaningful way. I was very pleasantly surprised how much we were able to accomplish in a short span. The intensive format actually played really well into helping meet our goals.”
“I was finally able to hear the “why” behind my wife’s thoughts/beliefs about her positions that I couldn’t understand.”
“This intensive did more to help my understanding of why we struggle in our marriage than anything we have read/heard/done in 21 years of married life. I wish we came 20 years ago.”
“We were in divorce proceedings when my husband reached out in desperation to Kim. We both agreed to give this “one last chance try” (after many therapy sessions with many other counselors) to save our 24 year marriage. Kim was able to unravel years of painful and toxic patterns in our marriage and gave us actual tools to take home with us. Divorce is not an option now! We will have the marriage we always dreamed of thanks to Kim!”
“It was easy to talk to Kim. She was very sincere and patient with all my questions and issues. My emotional connection with my husband had been gone for 20 years and now I feel more connected emotionally and sexually. We are now a team.”
“It’s the first time in years that I feel hopeful!”
“The intensive provided a safe place to be vulnerable and hear my wife be vulnerable–REALLY HEAR HER PAIN. If your marriage is in crisis, try this before making any further decisions. Kim can really help you!”
“The most helpful part of the intensive was the way Kim helped us learn to improve the communication in our relationship. Kim helped us learn to identify the common traps we experience that lead to disconnection and discord. She helped us learn how to understand what our spouse is really meaning when they say some of the things they say.”
“If you are considering the intensive, know there is hope and it can be different. We wish we had done this sooner and are so glad we did it now.”
“Kim was able to get right to the crux of the issues. She helped us explicitly identify the patterns we get stuck in and the hazards for our relationship as well how to avoid them.”
“We walked away with a greater openness and patience to understand each other and explore our fears and emotions in a safe manner.”
“This intensive weekend is great for any couple looking to revive their marriage and open up a new life together.”
“I now understand the root of the issues that trigger our behaviors. I understand my wife’s concerns about our relationship and how I can create an atmosphere where we can show our feelings. We now have some concrete tools to use when we are headed down the wrong road to change course and talk what’s really happening inside us.”
“The most helpful part of the intensive was the safe perspective and environment you created and walked us through taking the seemingly endless swing of issues and reducing them to their single core.”
“The intensive format allowed for deep discussions of important issues. Kim helped us get to the root cause of emotional disconnection. She helped us learn how to be vulnerable and make an effort even when it is hard to do.”
“The most helpful thing about the intensive was feeling safe enough to be honest about what our issues really are. Gaining insight and understanding was amazing as well.”
“The intensive worked because of Kim’s soft, compassionate, inviting approach.”
“I really appreciated the time that we spent focusing on our relationship. We were able to identify the barriers that keep us from communicating effectively. I feel that this has greatly improved our relationship and marriage.”
“It was very easy to talk to Kim. She was very sincere and patient with all my questions and issues. The way she helped us to dig deep and figure out our feelings, understand them, discuss them was incredibly helpful.”
“Kim, thank you for helping us find ‘us’ again!”
“Time spent with Kim supporting my spouse and I was worth every ounce of time and money! Kim’s deep knowledge of medical marriages saves so much time. And her empathy toward us was an integral part of our progress.”
“For me, the most helpful was being able to feel safe while admitting our own faults. Being in an environment that is stress-free, anxiety-free and full of pure understanding changed everything.”
“Kim was able to help my spouse see and hear me.”
“I was worried that such a compressed time schedule would not allow us to process through issues in a meaningful way. I was very pleasantly surprised how much we were able to accomplish in a short span. The intensive format actually played really well into helping meet our goals.”
“If you are in a downward cycle of mistrust or misunderstanding, the intensive is a great way to uncover/discover the root cause of relationship troubles and start the healing process. Don’t wait!”
“Kim and the intensive provided a safe environment in which both of us could freely share and communicate without fear of slipping into defensive, hurtful, and unproductive dialogue. Having Kim listen, interact, and specifically address often overlooked details in delivery, body language and verbiage was invaluable.”
“We started our visit skeptical and still hurting each other like we have been for so long. We finished educated, empowered, and refreshed. It was a great experience! I finally feel heard and understood. I learned why for many years my wife couldn’t receive what I was trying to say.”
“We had no idea what to expect and I was nervous. Kim taught me things about myself and my husband that I never realized. Those things have saved our marriage. I am excited for our future together. I am so thankful for this experience.”
“We walked away understanding the fundamental relationship issues and potential problems that could arise as well as easy ways to fix/prevent them. Kim brought us closer together and stronger as a couple. I am looking forward to the rest of forever with the tools we learned!”
“Kim knew where we were both coming from and zeroed in on any fears and addressed them professionally. She simplified the process we had been trying for so long to accomplish.”
“I never expected to have moved our relationship so quickly. The process worked! Kim is truly amazing at what she does. I am so very grateful and thankful for our time with her. I can not thank her enough.”
“From an “alpha male” perspective, I am a better person, more effective friend, and most importantly, a better husband. I gained the ability to communicate properly, identify how I communicate, and identify how my wife communicates. The intensive format provided superb conditions for healing and growth.”
“You may be skeptical and hesitant, but PLEASE see Dr. Blackham. She is amazing and will change your life.”
“I had a number of breakthroughs. Walking through different EFT concepts and strategies helped a lot. I loved the intensive format! It was definitely the best fit for our situation. The intensive format was the perfect way to find what we had thought we had lost.”
“Kim showed true empathy for us and our specific situation. She provided a safe environment to discover why we say and react the way we do to the people we are supposed to love the most.”
“I came in the first day hopeful, but scared. How can someone that didn’t know us help us? Kim was able to understand us in a short time and see what we couldn’t see. She helped us stay focused on the real issues and not the “lemons.” Come with an open heart and a willingness to listen. She can help you.”
“The most helpful part of the intensive was Kim’s ability to help me verbalize my true feelings and recognize my vulnerabilities. I never imagined I could feel this hopeful about my marriage after the crisis we have endured. I truly believe we will have the best marriage possible.”
“If all hope is lost and you fear divorce is inevitable, it is not. The hope remains if you are able to become emotionally connected. Kim can help you do that.”
“Kim has a very gentle ease about her which allowed both my spouse and myself to open up immediately and to be able to have her understand where we were each coming from.”
“I was finally able to hear the ‘why’ behind my wife’s thoughts/beliefs about her positions that I couldn’t understand.”
“Kim and the Intensive Marriage Program are great! I was able to learn how to express what I need and my wife was able to do that also. It was most helpful to be able to communicate my feelings without judgement and know that I am still safe. I’m looking forward to a new beginning with my wife.”
“Our foundation had been rocked and Kim helped us rebuild a new foundation that will help us grow strong as a couple and will withstand any struggles we might face.”
“I researched 20+ different therapists and I found that Kim’s EFT program would be the most effective way to strengthen my marriage.”
“We gained the ability to talk to each other without blame or judgment. We heard and understood each other for the first time.”
“My eyes were opened to a variety of problems and issues that I was completely unaware of. Kim has a knack for getting me to realize what is happening beneath the surface.”
“We were skeptical at first because of the cost of the therapy. However, it was totally worth it. We got more from day 1 than we would have in months of traditional therapy. Kim provided a safe space and it was helpful to remove ourselves from daily life to focus on each other. Definitely a must for any struggling but devoted couple.
“This helped my spouse and I see things about how we were feeling that we were both unaware of. It made us both realize we wanted each other but the way we were going about it was ruining our relationship.”
“Kim helped me to understand not only myself but also my wife and her feelings, wants, needs, and desires. She also helped me discover how much of my childhood has impacted who I am today.”
“We were able to find our way through our most difficult issues. We couldn’t have done this – maybe ever – in weekly sessions.”
“If you believe in fixing what is broken in your marriage and in building a stronger connection with your spouse, Kim can help you!”
“The intensive was like getting married again. You have such high hopes for your marriage and then you realize it’s not all bells and whistles and giving up seems like it’s the only option. It is not the only option. I’m now looking forward to the next 25 years of our marriage.”
“I was skeptical that three days with a therapist was going to make any difference after almost 20 years together. I was skeptical that focusing on emotions (instead of how his behaviors which have been driving me nuts) would help. But Kim really got to the core of what matters to me. She was able to get my husband to understand what was happening. I am really hopeful now. I have real hope that we can make this work—and I’m the one who filed for divorce!”
“I was honestly afraid of losing our marriage of 25 years. Seeing Kim was a last desperate grasp at saving it. After the three days of intensive therapy, I walked out confident that we are going to make our marriage work.”