Believe that medical marriages work – even if the chosen path is surgery.
Surviving residency with your marriage intact is possible! I wish someone had told me that. Okay, people did tell me that, but only people who didn’t really know. “Oh, it will be fine. Just think about how great it will be when he is finished. Five years isn’t that long.” When those comments were stacked up with the ones from those who had lived it, the “It was the worst thing we ever did for our marriage,” and “It’s not worth it” won out. The truth is (from someone who really has lived through it), it really can work and you really can come through with a great marriage!
I honestly would not change the path we have taken. I am so glad that my husband gets to spend each day doing what he loves. That does not have to come at the expense of your relationship. I promise. {Lesson 2}
I want to thank you for your perspective. Residency is hard. Surgical residency can be the hardest. Having an honest idea of the work that goes into keeping yourself and your family sane is incredibly insightful and helpful. Keep posting!