Balancing My Marriage and a Scalpel | Medical Marriage Tip #3

Loyalty Begins with Words

With the strains of medical training on relationships, we naturally look for advocates – we want to find someone who will validate our side of the story.  I experienced such a scenario dozens of times – a doctor speaking negatively about their spouse to co-workers or friends in an attempt to feel justified or be validated.  And what often happened?  Others join in, relating their own situations or complaints.  Rather than smolder the tension between spouses, the fire is fueled.  As I witnessed such conversations, I made a conscious decision never to participate.  In fact, you will never hear me say a negative word about Kim to anyone – not friends, co-workers, siblings or parents.  Instead, whenever I talk about Kim, it is always positive no matter what we are going through.  And she does the same when talking about me.  Knowing that we never speak poorly about each other or our relationship has created tremendous trust and loyalty. {Medical Marriage Tip #4}

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