Guest Post by Gayleen Gavitt
When I read Kim’s blog about #itsgoodnow, it hit a cord with how I was feeling. My husband is in his 11th year of training (4 for medical school, 6 for residency, and now we are midway through a 2 year fellowship). Throughout training, I lost track of how many times I either thought or was told that it will get better.
Guest Post by Gayleen Gavitt
Kim has graciously invited me to write about a challenge we are starting called #itsgoodnow100days.
Our entire marriage, except for 7 months, has been in the “it gets better” time frame. In those years we have had three kids, moved 5 times, bought a house, sold a house and had to live life. During residency, I was told that fellowship would definitely be better. Much to my disappointment, it has been in many ways more difficult than residency. I spent the last 6 months trying to find contentment, and trying not to go through the “what if we chose a different path” scenarios daily in my mind. When I read about Kim’s challenge to look at #itsgoodnow I was reminded that even during trials, there is always good in every situation.
A few years ago, I participated in the 365 project. The purpose of this challenge was to take a picture everyday for a year. It could be on your nice camera or even your phone, but the point was to capture a moment from that day. Throughout the year, I found when I was having a difficult week, I would go back to those photos and realize my life might be tough at times, but there was a lot of fun and beauty that defined my life, not the circumstances of residency. Whether it was a beautiful sunset, or my son cracking a dozen eggs with egg shells all over our kitchen to “make me breakfast”, or just a water fight – everyday had at least one moment to cherish.
I will admit, it was hard to do it for an entire year, but everyday I was forced to pay attention to at least one part of my day I wanted to remember.
When I started seeing what others were posting for #itsgoodnow on the Nurturing Medical Marriages Facebook Group and seeing the variety of photos, I was challenged to look at my own life and find not just one good moment, but a good moment everyday. I wanted to keep the momentum going for me and also see if others wanted to join. In the same vain as #100happydays that has been going around Facebook, I thought why don’t we do a similar challenge with #itsgoodnow and do it for 100 days?
And so began the #itsgoodnow100days challenge!
The you want to join #itsgoodnow100days, Kim has set-up a sub group for the Nurturing Medical Marriages Facebook Group for people to post their photos. If you miss a day, it’s not a big deal. The point is to pinpoint 100 moments that you can remember that #itsgoodnow. This journey is not easy, but life doesn’t wait. We need to live today.
We hope you’ll join us!
*Please note*
The #itsgoodnow100days Facebook group is a closed group. You have to be a member of the main Nurturing Medical Marriages Facebook Group in order to join.
