Couples are often unaware of how incredibly attuned we are to each other’s non-verbal cues–and of how powerfully those cues impact our sense of security in our relationships.
I saw this scenario play out recently with a couple in my office. Tim was trying to explain how he felt like a huge disappointment to Pam.
“It’s just,” he began, “I want to get it right for you.”
He was sitting on the edge of the sofa, leaning forward with his elbows on his knees and his hands clasped under his neatly trimmed beard. Watching him search for the words, it was obvious to me that he had never communicated any of these inner feelings to anyone before–certainly not to Pam. Continue Reading
