Have you ever wondered what the most effective way to ruin a relationship would be? Below are 9 simple and surefire ways to sabotage yours. 1. Criticize your partner, point out all his or her flaws, and demand that he or she fix them. This kind of interaction will certainly help things fall apart quickly. …
The new movie has come out in the theaters and your 10 year old wants to go see it with some of her friends. You don’t know anyone who has seen it yet, so you aren’t sure if it is appropriate for her or not. What do you do? As a parent, we find ourselves…
As the wife of a cancer surgeon, I hear about cancer cases every day. The young father who found colon cancer early and is expected to make a full recovery or the grandmother who is being treated for a tiny lump found during a routine mammogram. I also hear about the patient who has a tumor…
Tired of the same old marriage tips? Some of my suggestions were recently featured in Woman’s Day Magazine. Have you tried these before? Hug for 2 minutes and kiss for 30 seconds each day. “Often, kisses and hugs become mechanical and quick,” says marriage and family therapist Kim Blackham. The problem: Those hurried pecks and embraces don’t…
When I think back to the formal relationship education I was given as a child, it centered around two main ideas: “If you can’t say anything nice, don’t say anything at all,” and “Remember the Golden Rule: Treat others how you would want to be treated.” I don’t know about you, but both of those…
Confidentiality is a fundamental aspect of therapy and is crucial for the client to feel safe in therapy and trust the therapist with intimate details of their lives. When you engage in therapy, it is important to understand that the information you share is generally treated as confidential, and professional and ethical guidelines bind therapists…
Weddings bring all sorts of emotions to the surface, and not always pleasant ones. Blended families can be especially difficult for everyone to know how to navigate these potentially tenuous waters. Check out this PBS article for some advice I have for the stepmother of the bride.
A traveler was walking alone down a country lane. The Sun and the North Wind decided to have a contest to see who could remove the traveler’s overcoat. The North Wind tried first. He blew and he blew around the traveler as fiercely as he could, trying to rip the coat from the traveler–but…
“We don’t see things as they are, we see them as we are.” ~ Anais Nin One cold wintery day, my oldest daughter, who was two at the time, woke up to a blanket of snow outside. Having no previous recollection of playing in the snow, she was anxious to go out and build a…
Deciding to see a therapist can feel a overwhelming. Who should I see? What specialty should I look for? How will I know they are the right fit? All of these are really good questions and I hope I can help you answer them. The most important thing to remember in looking for a good…
