Dream About and Envision the Future Together
This isn’t putting off life until training is over, but rather seeing a future where the two of you are together and in love. Frequently discuss plans and dreams together. Where do we want to be in ten years? Where should we vacation to celebrate when all this training is over? Where do we want to settle? What will our lives be like then?
Not only does this help you remember that it will in fact end, but it provides a blueprint for the long term quality of your relationship so you will remember how you need to treat each other today in order to get there.
I know this is hard. I know it can feel overwhelming and at times hopeless. I know there are days where you wonder if you can make it and you question if any of this is even worth it. Please borrow some of my hope that you can make it through this – not just be the skin of your teeth, but by actually thriving.
All of these posts have been from my point of view. Much of our success through residency came because of the decisions Aaron made as well. He lovingly agreed to write his perspective and tips for surviving residency as well. Balancing my Marriage and a Scalpel: Lessons Learned as a General Surgery Resident that Kept My Medical Marriage from Exsanguinating
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I’d like to invite you to join the Facebook Group – Nurturing Medical Marriages. I know there are a lot of FB groups for medical spouses, but this one is different. The main purpose of this group is to support and encourage successful and happy medical marriages. It is a place to ask for help and support, offer advice and tips that have worked for you, share a good deal on a romantic getaway you found, or be a voice of hope for those who are struggling. Whatever stage of a medical career you are in and whatever state your marriage is in, WE NEED YOU. Come join us and bring a friend!
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For those of you who have gone through medical training, what other advice would you offer?
